Mind Boggling Coaching
So, as my son was wont to say: "What keeps you from falling back on the old hard-wiring?" It's not difficult to fall back. The wiring is still there. That is why anchoring, regular feedback and support and delayed feedback are so important. This is usually where coaching fits in nicely.The good news is pretty amazing. Remember in the first issue I stated that the neurons we don't use get eventually weeded out and removed by the brain? Well that is pretty much what happens. If you stick with the new map, and nurture and pay attention to it the brain weeds it out. In it's desire to cut down on competition for resources it does damage control and removes the unused portions.The role of the coach is pretty straight forward if any of this stuff means anything to you.1. Never give advice or solutionsI could never, in a million years, imagine what might be going on in your head and what would work for you. So what works for me and everyone else just ain't gonna work for you in the same way.2. Ask the right questionsDavid Rock's book is pretty straight forward on what questions to ask and when. They also tell you what you need to know to go on to the next step:creating an space where inspiration can occur then nurture it with dedication.I used to think that asking thinking questions so much would get people thinking I was crazy.Ah nope. People never get tired about being asked what they think. As I said before the brain LOVES a problem.3. Goal setting and supportYes setting goals is pretty darn important. Its a way to anchor and build in opportunities for delayed feedback.I once had a client say, "Oh Good! You can hold me accountable to this. Uh no. It's about you keeping it in your working memory and holding YOURSELF accountable. It's about creating and being responsible for your own hard-wiring. You can TELL me how it worked out but it's up to you to make it succeed.4. ResourcesI have Tons of resources for you to use. You can look at them and create what would work for you. Or they may create another insisght or moment of inspiration for you.Maybe you just don't have an idea about how to do something. Then resources are there for you to pick and choose from or again cause more inspiration.The only thing I ever strongly recommend, is to journal. It's one of the most powerful ways I know to keep an inspirational moment alive on a daily basis. Then you have a documented piece of that "moment it hit me".
Showing posts with label inspiration motivation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label inspiration motivation. Show all posts
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Mind Boggling Discoveries - Issue 4
So how does this all connect? LOLWell this angst is what drives us to create new maps. It's what causes us to seek to better ourselve and perhaps start looking for someone like myself: a Professional Coach.So what needs to be done? Well the first step is to become mindfully aware (this is where the meditation info fits in) of what it is we are experiencing. It's not the end of the world but a drive to do some new mapping.As a coach I get to ask the questions that focusses you on what really IS the problem. What REALLY is this angst all about.Do I need to know the details? As David Rock is fond of writing: Interesting but not very useful. The only one who needs to be the "keeper of the details" is you. Remember? Focussing on the hardwiring (the details) only embeds it all deeper.My job is to lead you to the moment where inspiration will occur to you. I can see and hear when this moment is about to happen. You pause, your eyes move upward, you might sigh or go hmmmm then wham you get that new connection and the energy blast that goes with it. It might be as mild as: Hmmm I never thought of it that way. Or it can be as dramatic as OMG!Because attention is a powerful aspect of perception I will focus on that moment. It will get nurtured and talked about until it is firmly anchored in your maps, firmly networked.And I can spend the rest of the time creating ways to build even more networks. I don't even have to be there. I can create attention by asking you to take a step in that direction and then telling me what happened the next week we get together (delayed feedback - ever heard of that?). The delayed feedback requires the client to constantly have the new map in their current working memory. And remember visual is faster and takes up less space.All it takes, to firmly anchor new hard-wiring, is 30 seconds of attention to it and the AHA feeling only lasts up to an hour. So that initial time up to and after an insight or inspiration are critical.This is where building goals and offering support are so important. Support needs to be positive and regular to firmly entrench the new hard-wiring.What else does this mean? Well my theory is this: it gets harder to learn new things as I get older. This old dog is slowly weeding out the useless maps. Thank goodness we have a surplus of neurons to begin with.
So how does this all connect? LOLWell this angst is what drives us to create new maps. It's what causes us to seek to better ourselve and perhaps start looking for someone like myself: a Professional Coach.So what needs to be done? Well the first step is to become mindfully aware (this is where the meditation info fits in) of what it is we are experiencing. It's not the end of the world but a drive to do some new mapping.As a coach I get to ask the questions that focusses you on what really IS the problem. What REALLY is this angst all about.Do I need to know the details? As David Rock is fond of writing: Interesting but not very useful. The only one who needs to be the "keeper of the details" is you. Remember? Focussing on the hardwiring (the details) only embeds it all deeper.My job is to lead you to the moment where inspiration will occur to you. I can see and hear when this moment is about to happen. You pause, your eyes move upward, you might sigh or go hmmmm then wham you get that new connection and the energy blast that goes with it. It might be as mild as: Hmmm I never thought of it that way. Or it can be as dramatic as OMG!Because attention is a powerful aspect of perception I will focus on that moment. It will get nurtured and talked about until it is firmly anchored in your maps, firmly networked.And I can spend the rest of the time creating ways to build even more networks. I don't even have to be there. I can create attention by asking you to take a step in that direction and then telling me what happened the next week we get together (delayed feedback - ever heard of that?). The delayed feedback requires the client to constantly have the new map in their current working memory. And remember visual is faster and takes up less space.All it takes, to firmly anchor new hard-wiring, is 30 seconds of attention to it and the AHA feeling only lasts up to an hour. So that initial time up to and after an insight or inspiration are critical.This is where building goals and offering support are so important. Support needs to be positive and regular to firmly entrench the new hard-wiring.What else does this mean? Well my theory is this: it gets harder to learn new things as I get older. This old dog is slowly weeding out the useless maps. Thank goodness we have a surplus of neurons to begin with.
Mind Boggling Discoveries - Issue 3
Perceptions are the meat of the issue. These little things are what holds all the networks and hard-wiring together. All our minds are networked with our perceptions? Makes sense, you say. Aha!Ever heard of the saying "What we expect we experience"? This has never been truer than in the world of HW the brain.This whole process of the way we perceive things and how a connection is actually made can be SEEN on an MRI (Brain Matters link). When something is hardwired there is an entire chain of biological responses that can be seen on an MRI. The neurons actually "light up" in response to a connection before we EVEN TAKE ACTION.As a result we pay more attention to what we're expecting. Now if THAT isn't powerful I don't know what is.On a microscopic level this is what happens. Our brain actually (I know I'm saying 'actually' over again but I can't help it) creates a new dendrite. These are the tiny little arm-like tentacles that connect one neuron to another. Little street lamps wired together. These are what the neural maps and networks are physically connected with. So when a new "connection" is being HW we create a new dendrite/connection. With this comes a blast of energy which you can physically feel. Ever had that AHA! moment? You feel excited, energized and ready to take action - inspired so to speak (I am smiling here). Inspiration is a truly physical response to creating a new idea, thought or connection.So what does this mean from a deconstrutionism point of view? Here is where I might get a lot of flack but I agree with Dr. Schwartz and David Rock. Its almost impossible to decontructionism "hardwiring". That's why a conventional psychology doesn't always work. Nothing definitive here. Phew!If you do start to focus on the HW you are going over and over the same connections and maps and embedding the whole behaviour even deeper.Attention physically impacts the brain so you need to be careful how you use it. Just bringing attention to something creates brain matter.Another aspect is: the brain prefers to focus on and solve problems or inconsistencies. It makes the brain fire up like crazy. This is important because "lack of change" IS a problem. Ever been dissatisfied? Unhappy about the way things are? Or just had the deep sense that "something is missing? Your brain is in overdrive baby.
Perceptions are the meat of the issue. These little things are what holds all the networks and hard-wiring together. All our minds are networked with our perceptions? Makes sense, you say. Aha!Ever heard of the saying "What we expect we experience"? This has never been truer than in the world of HW the brain.This whole process of the way we perceive things and how a connection is actually made can be SEEN on an MRI (Brain Matters link). When something is hardwired there is an entire chain of biological responses that can be seen on an MRI. The neurons actually "light up" in response to a connection before we EVEN TAKE ACTION.As a result we pay more attention to what we're expecting. Now if THAT isn't powerful I don't know what is.On a microscopic level this is what happens. Our brain actually (I know I'm saying 'actually' over again but I can't help it) creates a new dendrite. These are the tiny little arm-like tentacles that connect one neuron to another. Little street lamps wired together. These are what the neural maps and networks are physically connected with. So when a new "connection" is being HW we create a new dendrite/connection. With this comes a blast of energy which you can physically feel. Ever had that AHA! moment? You feel excited, energized and ready to take action - inspired so to speak (I am smiling here). Inspiration is a truly physical response to creating a new idea, thought or connection.So what does this mean from a deconstrutionism point of view? Here is where I might get a lot of flack but I agree with Dr. Schwartz and David Rock. Its almost impossible to decontructionism "hardwiring". That's why a conventional psychology doesn't always work. Nothing definitive here. Phew!If you do start to focus on the HW you are going over and over the same connections and maps and embedding the whole behaviour even deeper.Attention physically impacts the brain so you need to be careful how you use it. Just bringing attention to something creates brain matter.Another aspect is: the brain prefers to focus on and solve problems or inconsistencies. It makes the brain fire up like crazy. This is important because "lack of change" IS a problem. Ever been dissatisfied? Unhappy about the way things are? Or just had the deep sense that "something is missing? Your brain is in overdrive baby.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
