Wednesday, September 19, 2007

Mind Boggling Coaching
So, as my son was wont to say: "What keeps you from falling back on the old hard-wiring?" It's not difficult to fall back. The wiring is still there. That is why anchoring, regular feedback and support and delayed feedback are so important. This is usually where coaching fits in nicely.The good news is pretty amazing. Remember in the first issue I stated that the neurons we don't use get eventually weeded out and removed by the brain? Well that is pretty much what happens. If you stick with the new map, and nurture and pay attention to it the brain weeds it out. In it's desire to cut down on competition for resources it does damage control and removes the unused portions.The role of the coach is pretty straight forward if any of this stuff means anything to you.1. Never give advice or solutionsI could never, in a million years, imagine what might be going on in your head and what would work for you. So what works for me and everyone else just ain't gonna work for you in the same way.2. Ask the right questionsDavid Rock's book is pretty straight forward on what questions to ask and when. They also tell you what you need to know to go on to the next step:creating an space where inspiration can occur then nurture it with dedication.I used to think that asking thinking questions so much would get people thinking I was crazy.Ah nope. People never get tired about being asked what they think. As I said before the brain LOVES a problem.3. Goal setting and supportYes setting goals is pretty darn important. Its a way to anchor and build in opportunities for delayed feedback.I once had a client say, "Oh Good! You can hold me accountable to this. Uh no. It's about you keeping it in your working memory and holding YOURSELF accountable. It's about creating and being responsible for your own hard-wiring. You can TELL me how it worked out but it's up to you to make it succeed.4. ResourcesI have Tons of resources for you to use. You can look at them and create what would work for you. Or they may create another insisght or moment of inspiration for you.Maybe you just don't have an idea about how to do something. Then resources are there for you to pick and choose from or again cause more inspiration.The only thing I ever strongly recommend, is to journal. It's one of the most powerful ways I know to keep an inspirational moment alive on a daily basis. Then you have a documented piece of that "moment it hit me".

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